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A
Black Woman's Smile
FORGIVENESS
Forgiveness
is a lesson that so many of us have
to deal with. We hold unforgiveness
in our hearts so deep and for so long
that it erodes into an unhealing sore.
I personally feel that i am a heartfelt
giving person, I love and give with
all my heart.I value friendships and
expect no less.But,I am not perfect
so how can i judge.
The
thing is some people unknowingly hurt
others,and if not confronted in a
non-threating way will never understand
the betrayal they caused.Some cause
hurt because they hurt inside themselves.I'm
sure everyone experienced as a child
a schoolmate teasing or bullying you.
But, nine times out of ten, they had
way more insecurities than you,but
decided to zoom in on yours to make
themselves feel better.
Unfortunately,
that is what many people even carry
into adulthood.They allowed their
insecurities and pains from their
past erode into a presently sore life.And
we all know misery loves company.
Those insecurities turn into untrusting
hearts and pre-occupied spirits (bad
auras).
Don't
allow unforgiveness block your blessings,because
they will.I remember when i was facing
a very dark moment in my life. Which
forced me to face depilitating hurts
from my past and present.
I
had to reach inside myself and decided
that i needed to let go of it.It wasn't
doing anything but hurting me further,and
those perpetrators were moving right
along with there lives. I had to take
that control back.So, i got on my
knees and asked the Lord to show me
how. I wrote the names of the people
that I needed to forgive and taped
it to my bathroom mirror.
That
forced me to look at these names often
and pray for them and asked for them
to be blessed. That could mean show
them the errors of their ways and
of mine.After a while it no longer
hurt to look at these names, and the
hurt began to lift off of my heart.And
you know what?my life began to go
to the next level,and how good did
that feel.
As
sisters and brothers of Christ,we
must pray for each other and with
each other.We must love each other
as Christ loves us,and forgive just
as we Need Him to forgive us.
WHAT
IS YOUR PASSION ?
I often reflect on how I've always
wanted to do hair. This has always
been my passion since i was five years
old. I swear my parents were persistent
in redirecting me into other fields.
But, it always came back to hair.
It even took me years to work it as
a full time job. I now realize it
was because i was still trying to
please others. God has a purpose and
plan for everyone's life. We often
ignore or talk ourselves out of our
true passion.
What
is your passion? What thoughts keep
u motivated? then why aren't u doing
it? I have learned there will never
be a right time, there will always
be something. Worrying about how others
are going to feel about it is absurd.
I have always been a Big thinker,and
goal setter.
So
sharing my dreams and aspirations
are nothing new. People laugh or smile
quietly and say "that's nice".
That's okay because when I say I'm
going to do something I do it! You
are rarely going to have a lot of
people that are going to support your
dreams,and honestly you don't NEED
that.
One
time recently, I was crying and confused
because i was trying to plan an event
and it wasn't working out the way
I wanted it to. Well, my sister said
to me, "Kelli, everyone is not
going to see your vision." And
that was all she had to say. During
that same time another spiritual friend
named Marshiki really helped me to
realize that there was a bigger purpose
for that moment.
And
that is what we must realize. You
define your own level of success.
Don't allow situations, circumstances,
or people dictate your destiny! Had
I listened to all the people in my
life that said can't, shouldn't, don't,
wouldn't. Where would i be? Somewhere
miserable causing misery to others
because I'm unhappy. (I'm sure you
know many people like that) I'll tell
you one thing, you may wanna' think
twice about taking That persons advice.
One
time at a family function a cousin
of mine was asking my sister,one of
my aunts,and another cousin who does
their hair,they all replied"Kelli".
so one of my great aunts looked up
and said" well we do our own
hair,and we spend our money on more
important things."But then in
the next breath she said in a lower
tone,"I always did want to really
get into hair but,oh well."
My
point to this story is that that is
a prime example of someone who chose
not to follow her dream for whatever
reason,and regrets it,so without realizing
it ,puts down those who went for it.
Enough said?
Proverbs
3:5-6 reads "Trust in the Lord
with all heart and lean not on your
own understanding.In all ways acknowledge
Him and He'll make your path straight".
SO INITIATE YOUR BLESSINGS,SPEAK IT,
MOVE TOWARDS IT! Once I heard someone
say that when God gives you a gift
it is a sin not to use it.
That
changed my whole life and two weeks
later I began doing hair full time
and never looked back. True wealth
is not overnight, we will all face
adversities but that develops wisdom
and character. Many will laugh and
try to deter you as they did me as
i was making plans for this site and
its purpose.
Only
1 person that I work with has viewed
it (luv u Kamilah)...some people that
I know haven't even thought about
viewing it. But Guess what you are
reading it...and that's what I prayed
for. - God BLESS
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